Marriage coaching is worth a try

I subscribe to a blog called simplemarriage.net. The author, Corey, has some great marriage advice.

Corey is a marriage counselor and marriage coach. The difference between a counselor and coach, as I understand it, is basically this; people who are trying to save their marriage see a marriage counselor and people who want to take a good marriage and make it even better should see a marriage coach.

One day, Corey was offering free marriage coaching to two couples. So I put my name in, and we won free marriage coaching.

The point of all this is that Minna and I have a great relationship but actually going to a marriage coach was really fun. We had no pressure to "save" our marriage, only make it better. And we have. Just by thinking about making our marriage better, and knowing Corey was going to follow up with us on the goals in our next session we set actually helped. I probably wouldn't have paid for the coaching before but now I see it as something I would do once a year, kind of like a checkup. And I'd recommend it to everyone.

We had three sessions. We spaced them out a few weeks apart, we were really busy, but I liked having a couple weeks to work on our goals before talking about them again with Corey. The whole thing started in September and we had our third session the first week of November. While I would say (and Minna agrees) our "quality of marriage" hasn't instantly improved over the last few weeks, my awareness of our marriage has, and this awareness is the key take-away.

If you love your spouse, if your relationship is fine, and you aren't trying to save your marriage, then you should see a marriage coach. (btw, if you are trying to save your marriage, you might consider a marriage counselor.)

Thanks Corey!